Using Pick Up Lines
Posted on July 23, 2007 | Filed Under Attracting Men, Meeting People, Communication, Attracting Women
I received an email from a regular reader of this website recently and he asked me about using pick up lines. Firstly he wanted to know what were the best pick up lines to use and secondly, do pick up lines actually work? Both of these were very good questions and for which I didn’t have an immediate answer so I decided to think about using pick up lines in real life situations with real people to figure out the answers to his questions and then write this article on the effectiveness of pick up lines.
When I first started thinking about using pick up lines I initially thought pick up lines were inherently cheesy and usually would not work and then I changed my mind after considering the facts. Let me explain what I mean by the facts.
Let’s take a look at a typical example of where pick up lines might work. A guy walks into a room or some type of venue and grabs the attention of a girl standing in the corner talking to her friends. The girl discloses to her friends she quite fancies this man who has just walked in and as he scans the room he notices her looking and smiling at him. After noticing her repeated glances at him with a welcoming grin he decides to take the courageous step and walk over to this girl who is standing with her friends and say something to her. He is slightly nervous as almost any guy would be approaching a strange girl with her entourage and he knows that no matter what he says, it is going to sound like a pick up line. Without really giving it a lot of thought he notices the venue is filled with flowers and the dress this girl is wearing is covered in flowers, so he chooses a flower related pick up line and goes in for the kill, so to speak.
He walks up to her and says “as I walked in the room I noticed there were flowers everywhere and then I saw you wearing this beautiful dress covered in flowers and suddenly you looked like the most vibrant flower of all”. Now that is a corny pick up line but any guy who is confident enough to say something like that and perhaps laugh along with the girl and her girlfriends who will no doubt find that pretty funny indeed might just have a chance, especially since she showed some initial interest in him. If a girl makes it obvious by continually smiling at you and you like her, you will probably get away with a cheesy pick up line if it’s original although you might do ok with just a simple hello and then go from there.
Using pick up lines might appear desperate in many cases but if you are a witty kind of person and don’t take yourself too seriously they can be an incredible ice breaker since nobody really knows what to say to a complete stranger. You will always find girls out there who won’t give a guy a break no matter how hard he tries for two reasons, firstly they are just not interested in you, so there isn’t much you can do about that and secondly, there are girls out there who are so picky or so concerned about what other people think that they never let a guy break through their hard outer shell. These are often the girls who hit 40 and go “oops, nobody wants me now”.
The other types of girls are the ones who you simply need to approach and maybe that approach might involve a pick up line. These girls will give you a chance if you make a move so it probably isn’t the pick up line in particular that might win her affection but simply the fact you made a move on her and followed it up with some good conversation. Remember that using pick up lines is just a means to open the door, if she lets you in you only need to be yourself from that moment onwards.
So in my opinion, using pick up lines is pretty cheesy but it is making the move that is the most important step. There are no guaranteed pick up lines for success, since you never know if someone will take a fancy to you unless you approach them and how you approach them comes down to how comfortable you feel using a pick up line or any other technique regarding how to start a conversation. I would say in most cases, if you like someone and you have noticed they may have some interest in you, although this isn’t entirely necessary, I would go for it, since you have nothing to lose and perhaps much to gain.
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