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How to Start a Conversation

Posted on March 11, 2007 | Filed Under Meeting People 

When pondering the idea of how to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, the task may seem a little daunting. However sometimes you might only have just a brief moment of opportunity to meet someone who takes your eye. Approaching people in everyday locations when you are simply going about your daily business is a great way of meeting people who may become friends or meeting people who may become more than just friends. 

One of the most effective ways I know in regards how to start a conversation is to look at your surroundings and use them to help you start a conversation. If you simply go up to someone you don’t know in lets say a coffee shop or on the subway and say hi, you might be lucky if they happen to really like you initially and want to continue a conversation with you or then again you might come off as desperate. When you approach someone point blank and say hi, it is pretty obvious you are interested in that person and some people simply don’t feel comfortable with a gesture quite that forward. Instead, let’s say you are in the coffee shop, ask the person you are interested in if they could pass you the sugar from their table and see if you get a smile or even the slightest hint of interest. If they pass you the sugar with any suggestion of interest you could instantly follow up with a reply like “thanks I have such a sweet tooth I can’t take my coffee without sugar”. The thing is it doesn’t really matter what you say it just matters that you say something and this is a more subtle way of letting them know you are interested and putting the ball back in their court by waiting to see if they reply.

In the spur of the moment it is hard to know what to say and it’s probably difficult to think of anything profoundly original to say to someone you see in a public place. The key in how to start a conversation is just mustering up the courage to say something more than just hello. Using your surroundings just takes the edge off being so forward and allows the other person to get into a conversation with you in a more comfortable way for them than if you just say hello. By saying hello and wanting them to continue talking with you may make them feel desperate. They don’t want to appear desperate if you approach them point blank with a flat hello even if they do like you but if you give them something to respond to naturally it allows you both to begin a conversation in a more relaxed way.

Another example of how to start a conversation is if you see someone at the park with a dog, go over to the dog and rub its back. If the dog likes you or responds well then maybe you could ask its owner what type of dog it is and continue the conversation from there.

You can use conversation starters in any environment. If you are waiting for the subway to come you could ask the person you are interested in if they know if the train stops at a particular station or what time the next train arrives. It doesn’t matter if you already know the answer to those questions, it just matters to get the conversation started and there is another example of how to start a conversation.

By using your surroundings as a conversation starter it takes away the forwardness and directness of coming out with an unoriginal hello and allows both of you to feel more comfortable in starting a conversation. Using your environment is a much cleverer way to start a conversation than using a corny old pick up line.

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