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How Soon to Date After a Break Up

Posted on May 15, 2007 | Filed Under Dating, Attracting Men, Attracting Women 

How soon to date after a break up depends on the nature of the relationship you were just in. I guess there is no definitive answer to the question of how soon is too soon to date but if you were in a lengthy relationship it might be worth giving yourself some time to be alone for a while and contemplate a few things. You might want to first consider what went wrong in your last relationship and is this a reoccurring problem. It is not necessarily a matter of who is to blame for the break up but how to do things better the next time.

Dating after a break up takes time for some people as they need to evaluate what mistakes they made last time but would like to change next time or you may even need to make a better choice when it comes to a compatible partner than you did before. How soon to date after a break up also depends on whether you were married or not. If you took the plunge and got married then that relationship obviously must have been a serious one, so why did things fall apart. Until you give this some thought and come up with a few answers you might end up jumping straight back into the fire again.

If you have just broken up from a marriage it is probably a great time to let your hair down a bit and perhaps do some of the things that you couldn’t do while you were married, what ever they may be. Don’t be too hard on yourself about things not working out, worrying about your break up won’t make it better. Instead change the tempo a bit and get out amongst friends and enjoy yourself. I don’t mean by going out drinking and partying especially if that was what lead to your break up but why not try some new creative or constructive pursuits. Drinking, drugs and partying might allow you to escape your problems and responsibilities temporarily but they will only compound the issues you need to face but you already know this.

Maybe you were only dating for a short period of time so how soon to date after a break up depends on the length of your last relationship and how long it takes you to work out what went wrong. Maybe nothing went wrong and you were simply with an incompatible partner and in this case the answer to how soon too date after a break up might be not soon enough. You may not even need to take any time after breaking up with a partner if you are ok about it.

One thing that is of a more serious concern when contemplating how soon is too soon to date after a break up is if you are still hung up on your old partner. Despite what others will say on this topic I don’t believe you have to be totally over your last partner till you start dating again. You might be quite an emotional person as many people are and have feelings for your old partner for quite some time after your break up but you can’t help the way you feel. After giving yourself some alone time or space to clear your head, this might be a matter of months or longer but eventually it might be beneficial to start dating sooner rather than later.

Each individual is different and so how soon to date after a break up is dependent on the personality of the individual. Some people thrive when in a close relationship but dislike being alone, however others like some breathing room even when in a relationship so you need to assess where your priorities are. If you like to focus on yourself you should probably give yourself some time until you start dating again. For those that like to always have someone around there may be some other issues you need to address so there is no reason why you couldn’t start dating again but try and keep things from moving too fast or you might simply repeat past mistakes and this is something you should be aware of for your own happiness and peace of mind.

The bottom line when contemplating how soon to date after a break up is how do you feel about the break up and how do you feel within. How you feel within is usually projected on the outside whether you are even aware of it or not. If you are feeling bitter on the inside perhaps give it some time since you tend to get what you give in life. What I mean is energy is attracted to like energy so if you’re angry inside you might only attract someone else who is angry inside also. When you are feeling good on the inside you will project a more positive form of energy on the outside and this is a more conducive state to be in when you start dating after a break up.

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