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Dating Your Ex

admin — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 08:25:43 +0000

If you find yourself considering dating your ex it is probably a good idea to weigh up all reasons for and against getting back together with a previous partner. Of course people break up with their ex for a number of different reasons and they are not always all bad. For this reason dating your ex could be a step in the right direction depending on why your relationship dissolved previously although in many cases, dating your ex could simply be a recipe for disaster. Let me explain with a few examples I think most people could relate to on some level.

Usually when you consider the dissolution of any relationship you think about reasons like unhappiness, family issues, arguments, moving in different directions or simple incompatibility. If you broke up in the first place for any of these reasons, dating your ex might not be such a good idea. In most cases your relationship didn’t work the first time because you both of you were not on the same page or in other words, you were not compatible with your partner and when this is the case, continuing your relationship will only lead to frustration for you both.

Considering dating you ex after a failed relationship on the first try might be due to feelings of loneliness and this is understandable but don’t just think about the good times you shared previously. Most people who are lonely can justify taking almost any action that will lead them away from the empty feeling of loneliness. If overcoming loneliness is a primary concern it is even more important to take a long hard look at your previous relationship with your ex and remember what it was that caused your relationship to fail the first time. Sure you want someone in your life but if you know it could not work last time, do you think both of you have changed that much that it will work now. There is no definitive answer here but making a decision based on loneliness or maybe through the clouded judgment of a few drinks might not be a move in the right direction. Try to remember everything that happened last time, not just the good times.

Dating your ex a second time around could be a worthwhile opportunity if you broke up previously due to circumstances that were out of your control. Perhaps your relationship was progressing just fine but one of you had to move away from the area to take up a new job or move away with your family. Dating your ex who previously had to move away to college or move internationally would be other examples of a potential positive opportunity worth considering. If you have spent considerable time apart you may have evolved or matured into very different people and this could work both ways. You might be much more compatible or perhaps not but if you never had many problems the first time around, this could be the start of a successful relationship although you will not know until you decide to get together.

All in all I think most people would advise against dating your ex and in most cases this would probably be a wise move. However, depending on the nature of your break up previously, dating your ex after a lengthy period apart could be worthwhile. In any case, if you do decide to date your ex, keep and eye out for any early warning signs that signal the same type of red flags you noticed when you dated previously.

Become a People Magnet

admin — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 10:41:45 +0000

Maybe you have wondered what makes some people so magnetic and thought to yourself, how can I become a people magnet. Well the reason why certain people seem to have the magnetic ability to draw others toward them might not be some special gift after all, it might actually be a tool available to all of us. Over the years I have always been fascinated by watching people either interacting with other people or just going about their daily business oblivious to anything or anyone else around them and I believe I know the secret to becoming a people magnet.

Of course the secret on how to become a people magnet is not something that only I know or I have magically discovered, you also probably know why some people are so magnetic and when I mention a few ideas in this article I’m sure you will realize the secret to becoming a people magnet has been staring you in the face for ages.

To become a people magnet all you have to do is observe the people you know who seem so magnetic and look at how they act and how they hold themselves while alone or around other people. I have spent time examining the movements of certain people magnets in my social circle and others that are better known to the general public. The funny thing is that all people magnets seem to have a similar trait and that is real self confidence. When I say real, I literally mean real, not fake, not contrived and not a form of confidence that they only display when others are watching but an authentic confidence that is unmistakably genuine in all circumstances, even when they are alone.

One of my bodybuilding friends was in Venice, California in the early 1990’s and while he was there he visited World Gym hoping to catch a glimpse of Arnold Schwarzenegger since he knew that was the gym that Arnold trained at. He went to the gym one morning and asked the attendant if Arnold was in the gym or if he knew when he would be coming. The attendant told him that he was in luck, Arnold was in town and he would very likely be coming to the gym early the next morning. My friend went back the next morning when the gym opened and waited inside. He told me he waited for a while and then suddenly he just knew Arnold had arrived although he could not see or hear Arnold at that stage. Sure enough, just moments later he heard Arnold’s unmistakable laugh as he entered the gym. When he laid eyes on Arnold he said Arnold had this indescribable presence about him, it was unlike anyone else he had ever seen or met before. After his workout, Arnold happily posed for a photo with my friend who now has that photo blown up to a poster size and it hangs on one of the walls in his house.

Arnold does not have magnetic charm because he is a famous movie star or a great actor. Arnold is one of the biggest movie stars of all time because he has a magnetic personality. It was his magnetic charm that got him where he is today. I have read interviews with people who have met or worked with Al Pacino who say the same thing, Al is only a short guy but he looks ten feet tall because he is such a people magnet and people can’t take their eyes off him. Jack Nicholson is another one and I doubt anyone would disagree with that whether you were a fan of his or not.

It is not only big time movie stars who are people magnets, I only used those few examples since most people would have heard of those three people I mentioned and already be aware of their unmistakable and genuine confidence. Most people magnets are Joe Nobody’s who work in regular jobs in everyday towns all over the world.

An old friend of mine from my home town was a classic people magnet and everyone used to wonder why people were seemingly magnetized to him. He was a real Mr. Average, he worked for a small landscaping company and was not a particularly handsome individual and he didn’t have much money but back when I still lived in my home town he was beating all the hot girls off with sticks. Sorry, that is slang for he had his pick of just about any girl who crossed his path. It wasn’t just the girls who wanted to be around him, everyone wanted to be his friend and the reason was because he was only ever himself. He never put on any act to impress people, he was goofy at times and never tried to hide his flaws but he was always just himself and exuded self confidence in every situation. Everybody who met him could obviously pick up on this whether consciously or subconsciously and this was why he was a people magnet.

To become a people magnet is no secret only available to a special few, you can be as magnetic as the next guy or girl if you simply be yourself. When you love yourself unconditionally, flaws and all, people will be magnetized to you, I have no doubt about it. The reason why there seems to be so few people magnets among us is because how many people do you really know who never put on an act and never ever care what other people think? It is only when you can get past the insecurity of worrying about what others think that you are completely free to be yourself and do what ever you want to do in life and in the process you will become magnetic.

How to Spot a Liar

admin — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 08:20:17 +0000

In this article I will give a number of tips on how to spot a liar. Whether you have just met someone new, are starting a new relationship, are just friends with someone or you are in a long term relationship, it is always worthwhile to recognize how to know if someone is lying to you. Sadly many people are getting lied to and taken for a ride without them having the faintest idea of what is really going on but these tips are designed to give you some indications of how to spot a liar from the way they speak and through the interpretation of body language.

One of the easiest ways in regards how to spot a liar is to pay attention to a person’s eyes. If someone is talking to you but their eyes are not focused on you for the majority of the conversation they may very well be either lying to you or simply not interested in talking to you or speaking sincerely.

If engaged in a sincere conversation you should be able to see genuine expression in someone’s face and in their eyes. If the smile looks forced or is only half an attempt at a smile you have to ask yourself why this person is pretending, it could be that they are lying to you. If you love someone and you want to know for sure if they love you back, you should be able to see it in their face, your intuition will tell you if their expression is genuine or not.

One obvious way how to spot a liar is to keep an eye on someone’s body language. If they are restless, fidgeting, scratching their face, twisting their head side to side or up and down these are often indicators you are being lied to.

When someone tells lies while engaged in conversation they will often change their tone when speaking. For example a liar will mumble when telling a lie or you might even notice some nervousness in their voice. When someone is telling you the truth their tone usually stays the same and their words are steady and direct. If someone is rushing their words or seems to be skipping parts of the story you can bet they are not telling you the truth.

If you are asking someone a question and they look away when they give you the answer or they speak in a soft or barely audible voice unlike their usual style of talking you are probably being lied to.

How to spot a liar often comes down to simple awareness. Fidgeting, restlessness, losing eye contact and an obvious change in a person’s voice are just some of the indicators that someone might be lying to you.

If a Girl Touches You

admin — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 08:18:00 +0000

What do you do if a girl touches you? This is one of the most common questions I have received in my emails to this site in the last couple of months. If a girl touches you it would in most cases be considered positive unless of course she was pushing you out of the way so she could get a seat on the train before you take it for yourself. Then again, maybe even getting pushed by a girl might still be something positive since many girls will not touch a guy in any way unless there could be something between the two of you.

When a girl touches you it is usually her way of making an encouraging gesture towards you. Of course there are those times when you are in a crowded or confined space with many other people and sometimes a girl might touch you simply to get around you or to stop herself from falling on top of you if she happened to lose her footing for example. In these cases, if a girl touches you it probably doesn’t mean anything. However, let’s take a look at some other situations when a girl touches you.

If you are in school and one of the girls is your class touches you when she could easily have not touched you, this is usually a sure sign she likes you. If she touches you, even without looking at you, she is using non verbal communication to say she likes you. If a girl touches you on a regular basis in school, there is no doubt about the fact that she likes you. Like most school girls she is probably quite shy and wants you to make the first move and perhaps ask her on a date.

If a girl you work with touches you and you know she is single, I don’t think I need to tell you what this means but for those who still are not entirely sure, it means you need to ask her out for lunch since lunch is easy for both of you to handle and you both have to eat lunch at sometime while you are at work.

When a girl touches you in any type of social setting you might at first be wondering if that touch was intentional and consider if she meant something by it or was she just being friendly. I would say in most cases, girls are very aware of their actions and would not touch by accident but of course there are exceptions to the rule so you need to be sure before you jump to any conclusions. Ideally you could give her the occasional glance and see if she shows any sign of interest which she may do. Although girls can be funny sometimes by playing a different tactic and give you nothing in return. This is where you need to make the next move and perhaps lightly touch her on the hand or the shoulder if you get the opportunity to chat with her or introduce yourself. However, touching a girl even on the shoulder is quite bold if you are not sure if she likes you and perhaps it would be wise to simply find out if she is interested first. It is ok for a girl to touch a man but it is not really the most gentlemanly act to touch a girl unless you know she is keen on you.

All in all if a girl touches you it is usually her way of saying she likes you and an affirmative type of body language she can use without needing to utter a word. Shy girls all the way through to the most confident of women use touching as a form of positive non verbal communication and by remaining alert and aware you can communicate with her without either of you needing to say a word and have fun in the process.

How to Become a Player

admin — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 08:23:53 +0000

Many of the articles I write about on this site are related to attracting people or finding a partner but not everyone wants to be in a relationship or with a steady partner. In this article I will focus on how to become a player and what are some of the tricks to get girls interested in you immediately. Although a relationship is ideal for some, playing the field is even more alluring to others and there is certainly nothing wrong with becoming a player since we all have the right to choose our own paths.

The first step towards how to become a player is to release your fears about rejection. It is due to the fear of rejection that stops most guys from ever approaching and talking to a girl they like. The funny thing is that girls talk about this all the time, when they sense a guy likes them, most of the time they WANT him to approach them and usually they will go on a date with him for the same reason you want a girl, for the company, to make friends or perhaps for sex. This is the first step in regards how to become a player and if you can get your head around it, you are half way there.

How to become a player means playing the numbers game. If there are 100 tickets in a lottery and you have 50 of those tickets and your friend has only 1 ticket, who has a better chance of winning the lottery. You do of course since you have 50 chances and your friend only has 1. It is the same with becoming a successful player. The more girls you approach the more chances you have of finding one who is interested in you. On top of this, the more you practice approaching and talking to women the better you will get at playing the game and knowing what to say.

Another important step towards becoming a player is knowing what not to say. Remember this is about playing a game and the best chance you have to win the game is to keep on the most important topic at hand and that is you and her. So don’t mention how much of a stud you are and boast about how many women you have been with and don’t ask her about her past or about her last boyfriend, just concentrate on you and her, nothing more, nothing less.

One of the best ways in relation to how to become a player is to show your human side or show some vulnerability, girls absolutely love this trait in a man and you don’t have to come across as a wimp in the process. While in conversation with the girl you are after, tell her you can’t make it for dinner this Wednesday night because you are going to visit your grandmother or you do voluntary work at the children’s hospital two nights per month. I would highly recommend telling the truth when you expose your human or vulnerable side since this might get you in the door but if she finds out you are lying, she will not only give you the flick but she might also ruin your reputation as a player and this is definitely not what you want.

To become a player you should never appear desperate, if you ask her out and she says no, big deal, move on, do not ever cause a scene and respect her right to say no. You can always ask her out again on another occasion if you are cool about the rejection the first time, if you lose your cool and disrespect her, you will never be a player in the dating game. However, if you ask her and she says yes to a date, you know she must like you on at least some level so you don’t need to push the envelope and there is no need to appear desperate. At the end of the date you will both know if there is any chemistry between you and if there is, let her make the next move. If you really want her, don’t try and score with her on the first date, let it sizzle for a while and when it happens it will be better for both of you. If she pushes for something on the first date then you have to decide on what you want but it’s a nice decision to have to make.

Finally, one more tip on how to become a player is to get in shape, all girls the world over like a guy who keeps himself in good physical condition and having a certain degree of muscular fitness can help you get to where you want to be with a girl probably faster than anything that could ever come out of your mouth. In some cases if you are in good shape your body might just do all the talking that is necessary.

Unique Ways to Attract People

admin — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 08:30:25 +0000

One of the most unique ways to attract people is simply by raising your vibration. Scientists including Einstein proved that everything in the universe is made up of energy including the human body and everything in the universe gives off its own unique vibration according to the law of vibration. What we know about energy is that it is attracted to other forms of energy that vibrate at a similar rate. So by adjusting your own level of vibration it is certainly one of the unique ways to attract people into your life who are vibrating at a similar rate to you. Let me explain further.

Have you ever wondered why do you attract certain people? I think most people have at some stage in their lives and you have probably also considered what are some unique ways to attract people into your life if you are looking for a partner or just a friend. Although some people like to go out socializing and mixing with large groups of people hoping to attract people to them but what about if you don’t like crowds or socializing but you would still like to attract someone special into your life.

The truth is there are many ways to attract people from dressing up in your best clothes and mixing with people, joining groups of like minded people, joining internet chat rooms or perhaps you could attract people at your place of work. However, have you considered the possibility that the people you attract are not just people at random and perhaps there is some type of universal law guiding people together?

Science has come a long way, especially in the last century and we now know that everything in the universe is governed by invisible universal laws. Just like we know the law of gravity exists but we can’t actually see it, we are living within a matrix of unseen laws. So how does this help us to attract people?

Like I mentioned before, we all vibrate at a certain frequency and the people we attract into our lives and who become a part of our life are the ones who are also giving off a similar frequency. You would have witnessed this before but perhaps you were not entirely aware of it. Have you noticed that generally lazy people tend to be attracted to one another, or negative people who feel the urge to constantly criticize other people also hang together. The same thing goes for energetic and active people, they are attracted to one another, positive and generally happy people give off similar vibrations and are attracted to one another. There is a scientific reason for this and it is due to the individual’s vibration level as to why they are attracted to one another.

The happier and more positive you are the higher will be your rate of vibration. If you are normally pessimistic and depressed you will have a much lower rate of vibration and attract others who feel similar to you. There really is nothing random about the universe we live in since it is governed by these invisible universal law that have always and will always be in effect for eternity.

I’m sure everyone has heard people say they have met someone or visited someone and then later mentioned that the person they met with was bringing them down or putting them on a downer and they had to leave that person’s presence. This is true, some people have the ability to bring us down even if we are feeling good about ourselves but of course we do not spend long periods with people like this because we don’t want to be brought down. Negative people effectively have the power to bring us down by lowering our vibration but the same thing applies in reverse. Positive people can lift our vibration if we make the effort to avoid our usual negative or depressive thoughts. If the difference in the vibration level between two individuals is too great, these two individuals would have trouble occupying the same space or spending time in a room together. Both of them would feel so uncomfortable within, just by being in the presence of one another, that they could not bare to be any where near each other for any extended period of time.

So one of the unique ways to attract people is to raise your vibration and you can do this by following a few important steps.

Avoid negative people as much as you can. If you have a bunch of pessimistic or negative friends, I don’t want to sound cruel but either talk with them about changing their negative attitudes about life to something more positive or move on from them. Once you spend less and less time in the company of these low vibrating individuals, you will effectively raise your vibration and this will have a direct effect on increasing your vibration level and therefore you will then begin to attract people who reside on your new higher frequency. Don’t worry about losing friends, since as your vibration rises you WILL attract new friends or a new partner.

Spend less time thinking negative thoughts or thinking about what you don’t want to happen in your life and instead try to stay focused on what you do want or keep your thoughts positive. Repeating affirmations to yourself can help to replace the negative thoughts that seem to continually pop up in your mind.

Although while exercising you do expend a lot of energy, you also build up a type of positive energy within and this has the constructive effect of increasing your vibration level and is therefore another one of the unique ways to attract people without the need to go out to bars or clubs to get drunk and lose your inhibitions.

Participating in any activity that makes you feel good always results in an increase of your vibration level and the more time you are actively engaged in increasing your vibration you will attract more positive people and events into your life on a scale that has no boundary. Making a conscious effort to raise your vibration is the most effective and easy way to not only improve the quality of your life but also to attract the people you ultimately want in your life and help you to move away from the people who only serve to bring you down. You always have a measure of control over the people you attract.

How to Attract Love

admin — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 08:35:13 +0000

It might sound a little cheesy but the first step towards how to attract love into your life is by first loving yourself. When you think about it, it makes sense, why would anyone else love you or love anything about you if you can’t at least find some things to love about yourself. Loving yourself is not about being cocky or arrogant, it isn’t even about being confident but it is about knowing that you have something to offer. It is by finding some self worth and loving yourself for it that will take you a step closer to attracting love.

How to attract love comes down to initially finding out what it is you love about yourself and also what aspects other people might love about the person you are. These things can be internal or external or ideally a combination of both. Some people might be quick to judge and say that what is external is not as important as what is internal and that may be true in some ways but if you can find something on the outside that you love about yourself, at least you can start somewhere and this can help you find other aspects on the inside that are worth loving. Let me give you an example.

Years ago an old friend of mine had a sister who was particularly attractive although she was not what you would call an academic if you know what I mean. Since she was so beautiful on the outside she never had any problems finding guys although all her relationships were always short lived. Sadly her problem was that most guys saw her as a conquest when she was young and naïve and because she wasn’t very intelligent most guys moved on as soon as they got what they wanted from her. It was horrible the way guys treated her but it seemed to happen over and over again and most of the girls in her social circle back then looked at her as being free and easy and because she was so attractive few girls gave her any sympathy.

As the years passed and she got into her twenties she stopped seeing guys altogether because she felt empty inside and there was nothing she loved about herself. She no longer felt attractive and hated who she was, she even started to dress down and never made the effort to wear nice clothes like she had always done before. She worked with her family and for a while I thought she had left town since I had not seen her for many months till one day I was going fishing with her brother and he asked me if he could bring his sister.

While the three of us were fishing that day my friend and I were talking about a “Power of the Mind” seminar we had recently attended when his sister asked us if we enjoyed the seminar. To cut a long story short, we spent the afternoon sitting in the boat not fishing but explaining to her how powerful her mind is and how self love can change your life. She was so desperate to find out how to attract love that she had given up making the effort to look beautiful anymore because she thought that was the reason why she always attracted the wrong guys and thought if she dressed down she might find someone who liked her without looking so glamorous. The truth was she would have still looked beautiful even if she was wearing a garbage bag but the reason why no guys were attracted to her anymore was because she never smiled and hated herself. She wore her self hatred like a sign above herself that said “stay away”.

I don’t honestly know if what her brother and I said to her that afternoon made her change but a few weeks later I saw her again and she was looking like a million dollars and said she was going to go with her strengths which were her looks and spend more time caring about herself and not looking to find a man to love her. A couple of years later she got married, that was over 10 years ago now and she has a whole bunch of kids and she and her husband are still happily together. She found out how to attract love by simply loving herself and everything else fell into place when a great guy fell in love with her.

When considering how to attract love, you need to go with your strengths. It does not really matter whether those strengths are internal or external it just matters that you can find something or a number of things to love about yourself. If you are academic, creative in some way, good with animals or children or have any special or unique gifts, no matter how abstract, this is a path you can take towards how to attract love. Through whatever your gift or passion may be you have such a tremendous opportunity to love this about yourself and the moment you begin to love a part of yourself, others will see this self love you have and this is not only attractive, it can be irresistible.

We are all naturally attracted to successful people and all successful people love something about them selves and it is through this self love that they are able to achieve success. How to attract love can come done to something as simple as doing what you are good at and as you become better and better at doing and loving what you do, this can only help you to attract love into your life.

How to attract love come down to what you do with your time and being successful at what it is you do will give you something to love. You get what you give in this life, if you put positive loving energy into any pursuit or endeavor you will get back more positive loving energy in some way. The same thing goes if you put out hateful or negative energy by your actions or through your thoughts, you will reap the same negative energy in return.

So you don’t even need to go out into the world looking to attract love but you can start right now by loving yourself and the more love you give to yourself and your ventures in life the sooner love will find its way back to you.

Conversation Topics for Dating

admin — Sun, 12 Aug 2007 09:06:36 +0000

When you go on a date it can be handy to have a few conversation topics on standby just in case the conversation comes to a grinding halt. Nothing feels more uncomfortable than the conversation running dry and the more you desperately try to think of something original to say the more your mind seems to go blank. It is kind of like taking an exam at school, you know all about the topics that will be in the test but once you sit down in the classroom to take the exam, your mind goes blank but the moment the exam is over and the pressure is off, all that information comes flooding back into your head.

Going on a date is supposed to be fun but it can be a little stressful since we all want to make a good impression. For this reason it is helpful to think of a few conversation topics for dating that are easy to remember and easy to get started with people no matter what type of personality they have. Conversation topics for dates should be as general as possible since that way they allow both you and your date room to take the conversation in any direction that feels comfortable.

Sometimes conversation topics on dates begin to gain momentum from the very beginning of the date and can flow easily and comfortably through the entire date. Some conversation topics will naturally flow from one topic to the next without anyone needing to push the conversation along. However, what about when a conversation topic comes to an abrupt end. This is when a seemingly good date can start to feel awkward for both parties and in the worst case, it may signal the end of an otherwise potentially good date. If you like eachother you don’t want to let an uncomfortable break in the conversation ruin your date so in this article I have made a few suggestions of possible conversation topics for dating that can be used on a first date or any other date.

One of the best conversation topics for dating is to simply get the other person talking about themselves or what they like doing. If you don’t know them very well a great conversation starter is to ask them. Ask them about their job, their school and their friends or perhaps what sports or activities they like. One conversation topic I would steer clear of while on a date is asking any personal questions about family. Your date may well have a great relationship with their family but if they do not, it might become an immediate conversation stopper.

Once you know a little bit about where they work or go to school or what sports they like you can open up any of these conversation topics by asking them more questions about these topics if you feel they seem interested in talking about them. If they seem a little apprehensive to talk about a particular topic, simply avoid it. Conversation topics for dates can take on a life of their own and this makes life easy but when the conversation stops make sure you have another unrelated question up your sleeve or tell your date about something that just happened to you.

I went on a date once in a rented car since I had been in a car accident the day before and my car was in the repair shop. I was not sure whether to mention this to my date but she asked me if the car I picked her up in was rented and I didn’t want to lie to her so I said yes and this lead to further questions so I told her that I smashed my car and that’s the reason I was in a rental. I went on to tell her about the accident which I was not very happy about but we both ended up laughing hysterically about it and by the time we arrived at the venue for our date in the rented car we had already broken the ice and the conversation continued to flow from one topic to the next for the entire date.

If you can touch upon a conversation topic while dating that ends up making both of you laugh, this is like hitting the dating jackpot. Nothing makes anyone feel more comfortable than having a good laugh, since most people would agree that a sense of humor is a positive trait to have. For this reason any conversation topic for dating that gets your date laughing will quickly put them at ease and conversation always seems to flow steadily when you both feel comfortable. You could start talking about the latest funny movie you recently watched or how something embarrassing happened to you at work. If you can have a laugh at yourself or at your own expense most people will get a real kick out of it.

Another conversation topic for dating that could be a real winner is to talk about places you have traveled to or would like to travel to. Most people find travel quite interesting and the conversation has so many places it could lead to since traveling is such a broad and interesting topic. If you have not traveled much ask you date where they have been or where their dream destination would be.

You could also ask your date about their plans for the future since this is a conversation topic many people can get quite passionate about but keep it light because you don’t want your date to think you are pushing to be a part of their future but at the same time you are at least giving a slight signal that your are interested in them and that can make them feel a bit special which will always work in your favor.

How to Get the Girl at Work

admin — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 08:16:53 +0000

Many guys are faced with the scenario of how to get the girl at work without embarrassing themselves or the girl. Getting the girl at work might seem like an difficult task especially if she is a hottie since you are probably not alone in wanting to date her. However, it might just come down to the guy who is prepared to make the first and most appropriate move on her. To get the girl at work could be a complex procedure but if it is ever going to happen you need to take action now.

I was once in the position of trying to figure out how to get the girl I work with but fortunately for me, most of the other guys I worked with were happily married and they were very supportive of me in my quest to get the girl and it all turned out well. Although what about when you have to do all the work yourself to get the girl at work, what is the best plan of attack?

One of the first steps in regards how to get the girl at work is to let her know you are interested without going overboard. When you are near her office or work area give her a smile every time you are around. If you start by giving her a smile once or twice per day she will pick up on this since girls are very intuitive creatures. Giving her a smile won’t get you a date but it will get the ball rolling between the two of you and make it much easier to start a conversation that is not work related.

To get the girl at work you need to stand out from the rest but in a good way. If you are going for after work drinks with the crowd from work and she is there, let her see that you notice her giving her your attention or by simply asking her if there is anything you can get her. Ask her about herself without getting too personal and tell her about yourself. Don’t get drunk while she is around and be on your best behavior even if she leaves. If you make a fool of yourself in front of your work peers there is a good chance she will find out about it.

Attracting the girl from work could be a lot easier than you think even if she is super hot since most of the other guys are probably to afraid to ask her out. If you can hold your own around her she will find this appealing since all girls like confident men. To get her interested in you tell her briefly about how exciting your last trip out of town was and what you plan to do on your up coming vacation. Let her see that you live an interesting life and you are more than just the guy who sits at the computer terminal in the next cubicle. If she can picture you outside the office and not wearing the suit or work uniform she might even picture herself with you enjoying an exciting weekend horse back riding in the country.

Flirt with her but don’t be obnoxious or rude, if you flirt with her in a subtle manner without being too obvious so the other staff blatantly pick up on your flirtatious behavior she might find this a real turn on and it’s the harmless flirting that can lead to you asking her on a date. Once she is aware that you like her and she clearly has no problem with your flirting with her, you should start thinking about making a move. How to get the girl at work does not need to be a drawn out procedure, in fact the longer you wait the more chance she has of going cold. Girls like men who take action and you are that kind of guy.

If your plan is to get the girl from work, focus on just one girl and not the entire office of female staff. If she suspects you are flirting with other girls at work you will burn your chances of ever getting a date with her and she might even send the word out amongst the other female staff and you definitely don’t want the reputation of being the “player” at work.

To get her attention let her see you interacting with the other female staff in a professional manner, not by flirting but simply having a mature conversation and perhaps even talk to her about what you and the other female staff have been talking about lately. If you notice any sign at all that she feels uncomfortable with you talking with the other girls in the office you know she must like you on some level. This is another perfect opportunity to act and ask her out.

Once you are fairly certain she is keen on you a good idea would be to see her just before you are about to head home and let her know about your exciting plans for the evening ahead. If she seems the slightest bit interested this would be an appropriate time to ask her if she would like to join you.

When she finally says yes and you go on your first private date away from work don’t be too forward with her, simply let her see that you are a relaxed kind of guy who doesn’t take things too seriously and have fun. Expect she might tell some of your work colleagues about the date and be on your best behavior. Depending on how the date goes and how she feels about dating a guy from work will determine whatever future you two may have together.

What Not to Say on a First Date

admin — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 01:18:38 +0000

Before you go on a first date you might have a few ideas of what you will say while on your date but keep in mind what not to say on a first date might be just the key to a wonderful and successful first date. Of course you only want to be yourself on a first date and you don’t want to act in a way that is not the real you but if your intention is to get a second date, what you don’t say on a first date might be even more important than what you do say. The following is a list of the top ten things not to say on a first date if you want to give yourself the best chance of getting a second date.

1. It might go without saying but what not to say on a first date is anything related to your ex partner. The fastest way to turn someone off or throw ice cold water over your date is to mention your ex boyfriend, ex girlfriend or any other ex from your past. A first date is like a new beginning so there is never any need to talk about what is old or in the past.
2. If there seems to be a significant difference between your age and the age of your date there is no point bringing it up on a first date. The bottom line is neither of you are naive enough to not realize the age difference and you both want to be on the date otherwise you would not have agreed to the date in the first place, so talking about your age on the first date is a no no. You can always discuss the age difference if you decide to continue your relationship beyond the first date.
3. What not to say on a first date are your thoughts on marriage or anything else related to you or anyone else you know getting married. It might be completely innocent chatter without any underlying motive but your date could take it the wrong way and think that this first date masks a more elaborate plan or your part.
4. Don’t talk about your parents on a first date since this topic can be quite sensitive for many people for numerous reasons. If someone has an awkward relationship with their parents you could touch a nerve by mentioning parents and this could upset your date and ruin your chances of getting another one. There is plenty of time to talk about your parents in the future if you get to that stage.
5. In terms of what not to say on a first date, talking about money can lead to a range of problems and could even alter the flow of an otherwise successful date. When someone talks about money it can create frustration with people who have little money and completely turn off other people who perhaps have a lot of money. You will find out in time where each of you stands in relation to money as your relationship progresses.
6. One way to quickly turn off a prospective partner is to talk about any illness you may have or have had in the past. Illness or any type of sickness whether it is physical or mental in nature will not work in your favor or set a comfortable mood for a first date.
7. What not to say on a first date is how often you go out on dates. If you date all the time you are hardly going to make someone feel special in any way if he or she thinks you are just a serial dater. If you rarely date you might give the impression there is something wrong with you so for these reasons it is best not to mention it.
8. No matter how cool you think you are or how honest you like to be with someone from the very beginning, never talk about any of your run ins with the law. If you spent two years in the joint for possession of narcotics or got a 12 month suspended sentence for aggravated assault and you think you will impress your date by telling them this, think again. Even if they were impressed you need to wonder where this relationship will lead to. If you just want to be honest, keep it to yourself for the time being and bring it up after a few dates so your date can at least see that you have changed or matured since your restless years.
9. If you like your date and hope a relationship will flourish with time don’t mention sex in any way, not even as a joke. If you make reference to how many sexual partners you have had in your life this can never work in your favor. This information really never needs to be mentioned in a relationship at any time since the past is just not relevant to the present although if you were to talk about this, the first date is not the time to do it.
10. This might be another obvious no no but what not to say on a first date is anything that makes you appear desperate. Don’t say things like, I have always liked you, I so much want this relationship to work out, I didn’t think you would like someone like me or tell them that you care about them before you have even gotten to know them. One more thing, if you want a second date at least wait till the first date is over till you start planning the next date.