Dealing with Nerves
Posted on March 20, 2007 | Filed Under Dating, Meeting People
Dealing with nerves is something we all face during the course of our life. For some people dealing with nerves can be a debilitating condition and this can cause great frustration before and during a date. Nervousness can happen to anyone at anytime and it doesn’t matter if this is the first and only date you have ever been on in your life or the one hundredth date, dealing with a nervous condition can sometimes make you want to stay at home and lock the doors permanently.
The good news is that dealing with nerves before a date might just make you feel so much more relaxed that you end up feeling enthusiastic about your upcoming date. It’s a normal human condition to feel nervous before certain events like a date with someone you like or a gathering of friends where you know you will see someone that you would like to get to know better. Dealing with nerves and nervous energy is something you can do before your date by getting in some calm, alone time with yourself. Take a moment before you leave your home to sit down and relax by breathing deeply and try a common visualization technique whereby you see your date running smoothly in your head and repeat to yourself that everything will be just fine and you are going to have a great time together.
Let’s briefly analyze a typical date and see where dealing with nerves may come up during the course of your get-together. At first there will be the initial meeting and yes this can be a little nerve racking but remember, both of you want to be there, if one of you wasn’t already interested in the other on at least some level there wouldn’t be a date in the first place. Just remember to smile and make a simple comment on how nice your date looks and that’s about all you have to say initially.
While traveling to your destination you will obviously need to speak and this is an opportunity to deal with your nerves and hopefully get rid of all those butterflies in your stomach. The easiest things to talk about are current events in your life. You can get clear on a few topics to talk about before your date and you might be surprised when you get carried away in a conversation and before you know it you are feeling comfortable and relaxed with your date and dealing with nerves is no longer a problem.
If by the time you arrive at your destination you still feel nervous try to keep the conversation rolling by asking your date some questions about themselves and let them do most of the talking. You could also comment on what a nice venue you are at or how you have always liked this part of town or you have always wanted to come here before but never have. Use your environment as source of inspiration if you want something to talk about. If you are eating, just order a light meal and don’t choose food that could become really messy.
As the date progresses if you are still dealing with nerves just remember to relax and know that you want to be there and so does your date. If you are generally nervous around new people make sure you plan a short date and at the end of your date tell him or her what a nice time you had and that you enjoyed their company just in case your date was not sure since they may have noticed you were nervous and thought that it was them that made you feel uncomfortable or nervous.
Dealing with nerves might always be small problem but it will always only ever be a small problem and often your date will probably be a little nervous to and that’s always a good thing. It’s funny how when you put two nervous people together that after a while neither of them are nervous anymore.
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