Become a People Magnet
Posted on September 12, 2007 | Filed Under Attracting Friends, Attracting Men, Attracting Women, Body Language, Attracting People
Maybe you have wondered what makes some people so magnetic and thought to yourself, how can I become a people magnet. Well the reason why certain people seem to have the magnetic ability to draw others toward them might not be some special gift after all, it might actually be a tool available to all of us. Over the years I have always been fascinated by watching people either interacting with other people or just going about their daily business oblivious to anything or anyone else around them and I believe I know the secret to becoming a people magnet.
Of course the secret on how to become a people magnet is not something that only I know or I have magically discovered, you also probably know why some people are so magnetic and when I mention a few ideas in this article I’m sure you will realize the secret to becoming a people magnet has been staring you in the face for ages.
To become a people magnet all you have to do is observe the people you know who seem so magnetic and look at how they act and how they hold themselves while alone or around other people. I have spent time examining the movements of certain people magnets in my social circle and others that are better known to the general public. The funny thing is that all people magnets seem to have a similar trait and that is real self confidence. When I say real, I literally mean real, not fake, not contrived and not a form of confidence that they only display when others are watching but an authentic confidence that is unmistakably genuine in all circumstances, even when they are alone.
One of my bodybuilding friends was in Venice, California in the early 1990’s and while he was there he visited World Gym hoping to catch a glimpse of Arnold Schwarzenegger since he knew that was the gym that Arnold trained at. He went to the gym one morning and asked the attendant if Arnold was in the gym or if he knew when he would be coming. The attendant told him that he was in luck, Arnold was in town and he would very likely be coming to the gym early the next morning. My friend went back the next morning when the gym opened and waited inside. He told me he waited for a while and then suddenly he just knew Arnold had arrived although he could not see or hear Arnold at that stage. Sure enough, just moments later he heard Arnold’s unmistakable laugh as he entered the gym. When he laid eyes on Arnold he said Arnold had this indescribable presence about him, it was unlike anyone else he had ever seen or met before. After his workout, Arnold happily posed for a photo with my friend who now has that photo blown up to a poster size and it hangs on one of the walls in his house.
Arnold does not have magnetic charm because he is a famous movie star or a great actor. Arnold is one of the biggest movie stars of all time because he has a magnetic personality. It was his magnetic charm that got him where he is today. I have read interviews with people who have met or worked with Al Pacino who say the same thing, Al is only a short guy but he looks ten feet tall because he is such a people magnet and people can’t take their eyes off him. Jack Nicholson is another one and I doubt anyone would disagree with that whether you were a fan of his or not.
It is not only big time movie stars who are people magnets, I only used those few examples since most people would have heard of those three people I mentioned and already be aware of their unmistakable and genuine confidence. Most people magnets are Joe Nobody’s who work in regular jobs in everyday towns all over the world.
An old friend of mine from my home town was a classic people magnet and everyone used to wonder why people were seemingly magnetized to him. He was a real Mr. Average, he worked for a small landscaping company and was not a particularly handsome individual and he didn’t have much money but back when I still lived in my home town he was beating all the hot girls off with sticks. Sorry, that is slang for he had his pick of just about any girl who crossed his path. It wasn’t just the girls who wanted to be around him, everyone wanted to be his friend and the reason was because he was only ever himself. He never put on any act to impress people, he was goofy at times and never tried to hide his flaws but he was always just himself and exuded self confidence in every situation. Everybody who met him could obviously pick up on this whether consciously or subconsciously and this was why he was a people magnet.
To become a people magnet is no secret only available to a special few, you can be as magnetic as the next guy or girl if you simply be yourself. When you love yourself unconditionally, flaws and all, people will be magnetized to you, I have no doubt about it. The reason why there seems to be so few people magnets among us is because how many people do you really know who never put on an act and never ever care what other people think? It is only when you can get past the insecurity of worrying about what others think that you are completely free to be yourself and do what ever you want to do in life and in the process you will become magnetic.
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I read this commment and Ive been thinking teh exact thing you concluded. Ive never been happy with myself yet im confident, but I have low self esteem. My relationships with others wround me has baffled me. Im great at first impressions but I think they realise im not fully confident in myself and the shock makes them drift off. So ive been watching others and thats it. One guy I know due to a problem he has, has to take medication so he doesnt worry about things as he can get vengeful. Hes one of the most well liked people. But your right! Now the question- how to get there!!